I have been seeing this girl for about 5 weeks now, we have only met up like 5 times but whenever we do spend time together it’s amazing, a definite connection. However in between seeing each other, she is really busy and; so am i and this means that texting etc can be quite short/blunt/intermittent.
I know this is because we are both so busy but my mind constantly tries to convince me that its because she doesn’t like me anymore, I am convincing myself that she is seeing someone else instead of me and it’s horrible for me.
As a result she was particularly busy the past few days and hardly spoke to me so I got a bit mad, sent like 5 text messages, a snapchat, a fb message asking her why she has been off with me, why is she ignoring me, if she doesn’t like me anymore just tell me.
She replies this morning saying that I need to calm down, do I even trust her, if I need that validation from her when she is doing her own thing that she is not the right person for me… which I kinda deserved. But it is only now it has all been put into perspective like that that I realise how ridiculous I have been.
At the most anxious times, I know I am being anxious and ridiculous and know I need to stop and calm down and let things happen but I also somehow can’t seem to stop myself from making it worse. I don’t want to lose her, I really like her.
I apologised for my actions, told her that I wasn’t really like that and haven’t been like that toward her before. I said I would promise to chill out if she forgave me – work has been pretty heavy this week but I said I shouldn’t have taken it out on her.
I hope that she can understand and we can move past this :/
I don’t want to lose someone who means a lot to me because of actions that I KNOW are ridiculous but I can’t seem to help them. Do I need to seek counselling help?